Tag: Roadblocks

You Are A Champion

champions“I am always the most positive person”  said no one ever. Because….everyone has “off” days. But you know what is so great about having an “off day?” It is an opportunity to pick yourself back up and be even better the next day. It feels great when you can get out of that funk. The key is to remember that life will hand you “ups and downs” and “obstacles.” The key is to never give up and understand that these obstacles are simply little detours  in the road to our destinations. How do you find your way back?

  1. Surround yourself with supportive and amazing people. The key to a great leader is to surround oneself with people who are even greater. Form a united team of friends, family and colleagues.
  2. Remember that everyone has ‘challenges.’ You are not unique in this category. I know it is hard, but it is true. The key to success is in how you address your challenges and work through them.
  3. Help someone else. I always find that when I am having a down day, what can make me feel better is to give some of my time to someone less fortunate or someone who needs a helping hand or an ear to listen.
  4. Learn from your mistakes. Our biggest challenge lies in ‘not’ repeating the same mistakes. Look back on a situation and ask yourself “how could I have handled that differently?” I learned this lesson with age, so maybe I can help someone learn that a little earlier.
  5. Ask for help. There is no shame in asking for some help. Another lesson learned with age. It is not a sign of weakness. it is a sign of strength.
  6. Never give up on your dreams. When you give up on a dream you are giving up on making the most of your amazing gift-life. So use every second of every day to make your dreams a reality. Set your goals and your possibilities are endless.18684

 

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And The Beat Goes On

FB_IMG_1513649356967If you are my age, you will remember the song  ‘The Beat Goes On” by Sonny and Cher. That song was sung at Sonny Bono’s funeral and I believe the phrase appears on his tombstone. I was thinking a lot about that phrase a few weeks ago. Not to mention I love the song! Anyway, I had just completed an amazing project outside of the U.S. and it was a pretty big deal for my consulting company and team. I should have been on an all time high. But as life goes, I was hit with some snags, unrelated to the event, literally the next day. Nothing major, but just enough to cause some self doubt about my decisions. It was just enough to make me take pause to my direction and even question my support system. Was I taking both of my businesses in the right direction? Did I have the right people on my team? Was I doing the right thing for my team?

Those who know me, are aware that I am  pretty much, for lack of a better phrase, a glass half full kind of girl. I cant remember when I had self doubt. I just simply do not allow it in my life. I move forward. I may hit some obstacles on my journey but I keep going. So it was strange for me to have this moment of question. And then I though about all the reasons “WHY” I do what I do, and I knew at that moment I had to continue to forge ahead and not second guess my actions and decisions.

So, I find that phrase  ” The Beat Goes On” very appropriate from time to time for people like me who work for themselves.  And if you sing it, it really puts you in a good mood! Because, we may be smiling on the outside, but that doesn’t mean everything is always hunky dory on the inside. People like me know how to ‘fake it till we make it’ because we  are either expected to always be ‘on’ or we  are trying to be strong for other people. Sometimes we are putting up a great front for people who look up to us or rely on us for work. Sometimes we are putting on a great show for potential  new business. And lord knows it can be exhausting at times. Those days can feel like there is nothing left to give when I get home to my family!

So I am here to tell you, when the  doubts may seem to overpower the validation, or the road traveled is getting a little rocky, those are the days we must remember most that  ‘The Beat Does Go On.” Life doesn’t stop because we had a set back, or a failure …it continues.  And it will be great again. And the if you look around at life in general you will find that your little snag is probably nothing compared to someone else who has hit some hard knocks. People are losing their jobs, losing their homes, losing loved ones, having  their spouses deployed for months…..and your little snag, or failure….that is nothing in the grand scheme of things.

The difference between those of us who make the long journey  and have success versus others who turn back and make excuses for their failures, is remembering things like the phrase…The Beat Goes On… or just digging deep down and remembering your  WHY.

Don’t let a failure, a set back or even a friend cause  you self-doubt. Don’t let someone allow you to second guess your vision.  You set out on a journey to be your own boss for a reason. It took amazing courage.  You are not perfect. There will be failures. There will be set backs.  But there will be wins. These are opportunities for improvement.  These are the learning moments that make us better.

“And the beat goes on, the beat goes on
Drums keep pounding a rhythm to the brain
La de da de de, la de da de da”

 

You Are Entirely Up To You, A Journey Worth Taking

 

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I love that quote! Think about it. What does it mean to you? For me, it is so empowering.  It reminds me that anything IS possible in this life we have been blessed with. This  quote says when you travel life’s road you will be given choices. How you look at these choices and react is up to you. This is how I live my life every day. I am 53 and the possabilities are endless .

Think about this. If you have the ability to imagine something in your mind that you want-  and you can see it as a target- then the dream is possible.   What you do next is THAT which will define you. Your next step IS entirely up to you. It is up to you to create a plan to achieve your goals.

And think about your journey. This  road trip will have some twists and turns, but that is what makes a trip fun. No one wants to drive on a straight road for hours with nothing to see! BORING. It IS the twists and turns that make us look forward to what lies ahead .

This road trip may have some detours or roadblocks along the way . No one said this would be easy.  How you react to the  roadblocks – that will be your defining moment.

  • So you can  be “Debby Dreamer” and stare out the window just sight seeing hoping something magical will appear.
  • You can be a “Betty Blamer” and find every reason why you can’t or haven’t reached your final destination.
  • You can be “Negative Nancy” and focus only on the bumps in the road- poor me, nothing goes,my way. It figures there is a road block-nothing is ever easy .

Or you can simply  rise to the occasion.  Make a plan and when you hit a roadblock adjust the journey. Look at the “hiccup ” as an opportunity to see more sights.  The roadblock is just a means for you to  find another way around to your end point . You might have to back track a bit and regain your bearings, but that is how you learn.

If you can realize that every day you make a choice of who you  are going to be and that “You are entirely up to you, ” life’s journey will never be a disappointment.